Relationships

[Adm_Bell-Krasner 0]

I have noticed that many characters on many of the STSF advanced sims have girlfriends, boyfriends husbands, wives, children etc.. I would like to get everyone's opinon as to whether relationships should be mentioned during sims and not just in personal logs. Some people already do it but it is rare. Personally I think that having a wedding or a baby naming or something to that effect would make for a very interesting sim and I am going to ask my Captain to do that as my characters wife just had a baby and I want her to come aboard so I can be with her and our newborn. I would like comments regarding this and I am also including a poll which I will then pass along to the GMS so I can get there opinions. To respond to the poll simply tell me your letter choice along with your general response if you decide to make one.

 

Should relationships and the result there of be mentioned/used during sims

 

A: Yes

B: No

C: Under Certain Circumstances (Please Specify)

 

Thanks very much everyone

[Seiben 0]

I don't see a problem, in that.. just so long as it doesn't distract too much from the actual sim, so I voted A, for yes. Relationships, can add for some interesting character development, or make the sim alot more exciting. I myself have a few relationships on some of my ships. And if you choose to go with another player to have the relationship, it really does make a good potential for making friends with that person in real life, as it has mine. (Can't wait till she comes back, though :D ) So go for it, and good luck. (Plus, I think the big man of the Manticore is "Married" to another player there himself?)

[Saek tr'Vosh 0]

I know several of you are young, single officers ready to take on the world...and as such, I see no problem with forming "Relationships" on your respective tours. However, as a husband and a father, I draw the line at anything beyond obvious friendship in a sim. Truth be told that is probably why I am on a Rihannsu vessel as well as play a Vulcan...although the Vulcan is having some issues of late...anyway...

 

 

My vote is..in my opinion...........single-yes.........married-no

 

Am I old fashioned...maybe..am I gonna change...no way..)

 

 

Perhaps I should change my name to "the Future Old Fart.." :D

[Tachyon 0]

I've seen relationships mentioned in sim before. I think it's fine, remember that relationships were mentioned on the ships of the series as well, and a lot of people knew about it. Obviously you can't keep much secret for awhile, especially on a starship.

 

As for how much they are mentioned? Well, I think that it's like a topic for everyday conversation. Starfleet's never wanted relationships to get in the way of duty, however, so think about that.

 

So I say, C: Under Certain Circumstances, final answer.

 

I didn't even have to use a lifeline?!

 

(Did I win? :D )

[Captain Huff 0]

When I first started simming I was advised by an older player to wait for a while before hooking up my character in a relationship. He said it would be better to develop the character for a while on my own before tying up that development with someone I didn't really know. In retrospect, I am grateful for his advice.

 

Personally as a player, I would find it shallow if my characters were never involved in relationships. As for children, I consider what a person the age and position of my character would consider. (Would I *really* want to start spitting out babies when I'd just established myself in a prestigious career?)

 

Also... as a long time player now, I would only write and sim a relationship with another player that I know and trust in real life. Over the years I have seen far too many situations where sim reality and real life reality are confused, and oh the problems it can cause.

 

As a host, I don't really care what players do with relationships as long as it doesn't interfere with their ability to play their positions (kind of like real life, lol), and as long as they are not offending or crossing boundries with other players.

 

So I guess the best advice I can pass along is to approach sim relationships with caution. Keep them in perspective -- Don't let them define your character or your simming experience. (Kinda like real life again, right?)

 

And don't violate the Prime Directive!

[Brian Graham 0]

My vote is..in my opinion...........single-yes.........married-no

 

Am I old fashioned...maybe..am I gonna change...no way..)

Nah, I agree with you totally.

[DaryusZaphodDracal 0]

For NPC (Non player character's) sure, if the GM and other player's approve. For r/t player romances, I'd have to say C, under certain circumstances. Every GM is different. If the two player's have an r/t relationship and want to encorperate it into there character's they should start slowly not rush the relationship onto the other players and GM's. I've heard of player relationship's on board ship, even heard of at least one wedding on the bridge of a ship. Personally, I am in a relationship with another player, we were friends before we started STSF and have since grown closer. We do flirt a little durring sim and I've encorperated it a little into my log's. But, I don't know if our character's are going to persue a "love affair" onboard though. To sum it up. If the GM's and other player's don't mind, and it dosn't distract from the game, I'd say sure why not. Love survives, even in the cold blackness of space.

 

Zaphod,

"You will be assimilated, meow."

Edited July 20, 2004 by DaryusZaphodDracal

[Travis Kroells 0]

Heh, I have to vote yes.

 

Kroells has already had steamy make out sessions in the turbolift, on the way to the bridge.

 

But I totally agree with the whole "dont let it distract the sim" If you have a wife, or Boyfriend, or what not, thats great. Just dont be running from your station for a little "private time"

 

Otherwise I always think it's an interesting side to simming, and an excelent way to develop your character.

[Webmaster 20]

Edited topic to attach post since the poll itself did not seem to exist.

[NDak 0]

I am in that third catagory. Personally I try and avoid personal relation ships for my charcters. I am with Huff, it's a lot of work just developing your character on your own, let alone try and develop a relationship, too. That's just a bag of worms I'd rather not deal with, IMO. However, for those of you who--thats nice.

 

My only cautions for someone wanting to do one would be, to carefully select who your going to be 'dating' (or married :) ). I have to agree with Kroells to, like anby other charcter development you do, I would caution against anything that would disrupt the normal flow of play (for example having your wife turn into a ragging killing machine :P ) And keep it tasteful of course, not everyone wants to read trashy love-logs :P B)

Edited July 20, 2004 by NDak

[NDak 0]

I know several of you are young, single officers ready to take on the world...and as such, I see no problem with forming "Relationships" on your respective tours. However, as a husband and a father, I draw the line at anything beyond obvious friendship in a sim. Truth be told that is probably why I am on a Rihannsu vessel as well as play a Vulcan...although the Vulcan is having some issues of late...anyway...

 

 

My vote is..in my opinion...........single-yes.........married-no

 

Am I old fashioned...maybe..am I gonna change...no way..)

 

 

Perhaps I should change my name to "the Future Old Fart.." :)

Au do na think the Rihannsu jol? Of course we jol! it's just for somereason everyone on the Talon's loves are....well dead or in stasis :P

[Dumbass 0]

Also... as a long time player now, I would only write and sim a relationship with another player that I know and trust in real life.

As a result, the QoB now has 2 sons of a BcH.

[Grom 0]

My personal opinion...unless it's relavent to the current plot or situation... I stand by two beliefs about simming relationships.

 

1.) Keep it clean

 

2.) Keep it in the logs

 

 

But that's just my opinion... :P

[Merina 0]

There should be relationships. Like one time, on the Reaent we were talking about who should pair up with who. It was like Fred's Island. ::ducks and hides from Fred::

 

But anyway relationships can make the sim go better.

[Commodore Moose 0]

I think Huff has summed it up best so far. However, in interests of shamelss self-promotion, I'll add my opinion as cut and pasted from the "Tips From The Moose" area. : )

 

"Once you start dating or marry another character on your ship, you have suddenly limited yourself. You can't be spontaneous on a shore leave because your character would spend all their free time with their beloved. You can't volunteer for a life threatening mission without being prepared to write the log of the "don't do that again" fight when it's over. And heaven help you if another player joins the ship whose playing style is more compatible with your own than your mate's is. No one takes being dumped in their fantasy life very well, no matter how secure they are in real life.

 

In order to fully explore and develop your simming style, keep as many options open for your character as you can."

 

Just my two cents ...

[Adm_Bell-Krasner 0]

My personal opinion...unless it's relavent to the current plot or situation... I stand by two beliefs about simming relationships.

 

1.) Keep it clean

 

2.) Keep it in the logs

 

 

But that's just my opinion... :P

I am happy to see everyone responding to this poll and giving their opinion. STSF Gromvick brought up something that I failed to mention. Relationships should be kept clean (everyone should know what I mean by clean) and if you are voting yes in this poll I meant Yes (but keep it clean) The last thing we need is to see the sim taken up by Innapropriate stuff. I know Admiral Atragon and Captain Sovak wouldn't tolerate it on the Manticore